The Consequences of Drifting Through Life

Plus 4 scenarios that cause drifting and tips to avoid each

Have you ever looked at your situation in life and thought “how did I get here?” It feels a bit like vertigo, where suddenly your sense of balance is eerily off kilter, and you temporarily struggle to find your bearings. It can last from 20 minutes to 24 hours! In life, this sensation is called “the drift”, and most of us have experienced it at some point.

It’s where our mind had an idea of where we thought we would be in life, but because we weren’t paying attention we drifted off course. Drifting can happen for different reasons, but the consequences are always the same – it’s confusing and costs us time, money and opportunities.

In their new book Living Forward, Michael Hyatt and Dan Harkavy identify four times we’re most easily caught by the drift, and the five telling consequences that usually accompany it.

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How a Tighter Focus Yields Better Results

And 6 things you can do right now to be more focused

Do you have a stack of unread books? An inbox full of email? Life seems to pile up faster than we can absorb, but what if that pile was our own doing? Most of us see ourselves as victims, but really we’re the perpetrators. We put ourselves in this mess, and we can get ourselves out of it.

In 2016 I added 38 books to my reading list, purchased 15 (only half of which were on my list) and only read 15. My pile keeps getting deeper, and most of the books I bought I still haven’t read!

So this year, one of my resolutions is to not buy any new books until I read the ones I already own. And when I do read those books, I’m going to really read them. I’m going to take notes on the thoughts and ideas that I think are useful to apply to my life.

I’m going to intentionally give attention to less and go deeper into those few things I do focus on. Sound like something you could do?

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Why Difficult People Are Annoying (and Why We Need Them)

Plus 5 things to remember when you have to deal with them

It’s inevitable. At some point we all have to deal with someone who makes things more difficult. Most people shrink back and avoid that situation, but stepping courageously into it (like I know you would) can improve your emotional intelligence, negotiation skills and influence – the skills that make the best leaders.

I once worked with a woman who was extremely difficult to get along with, and it wasn’t just me, everyone knew she was difficult to work with. Most people avoided her and worked around her, but my job required that I work with her on a daily basis, so I had to deal with herHow did I manage?

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