How to Enjoy Going to Work Again

Or loving your spouse, or eating healthy, or exercising regularly, etc.

Successful, mediocre and failing people all have something in common; they’re busy. Every person I know is busy. The difference amongst them is what they’re busy about. The most successful people I’ve met are busy with things that they’re passionate about AND are showing good progress in.

The question of passion vs. progress is a simple one: do you like the thing (passion), and are you getting results in it (progress)? Oftentimes we find one or the other, loving the thing we’re doing but not seeing the results we want, or hating the thing we’re doing and knocking the results out of the park. Here’s what you can do to bring balance to that duality.

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5 Things to Make You Smarter as You Age

And actions you can take now to reap the benefits

A common misconception is that our brains decrease in performance as we age. While it’s true that our flesh, bones and joints degrade over time from use, the opposite can be true for our cognitive ability. While your brain might be getting older, it can also continue to improve in performance.

In the last decade, neuroscientists have concluded that it is possible to improve one’s “fluid intelligence” even as they age. As explained by Andrea Kuszewski in Scientific American, fluid intelligence is “your capacity to learn new information, retain it, then use that new knowledge as a foundation to solve the next problem, or learn the next new skill, and so on.” Some have even said that you could live to be 120 years old, and have a higher cognitive ability than you did when you were 25. The secret to keeping your brain in stellar condition?

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Why Difficult People Are Annoying (and Why We Need Them)

Plus 5 things to remember when you have to deal with them

It’s inevitable. At some point we all have to deal with someone who makes things more difficult. Most people shrink back and avoid that situation, but stepping courageously into it (like I know you would) can improve your emotional intelligence, negotiation skills and influence – the skills that make the best leaders.

I once worked with a woman who was extremely difficult to get along with, and it wasn’t just me, everyone knew she was difficult to work with. Most people avoided her and worked around her, but my job required that I work with her on a daily basis, so I had to deal with herHow did I manage?

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Destressing the Holidays: How to Manage Ridiculous Expectations

This time of the year is both beautiful and stressful at the same time, it’s great to be around family to celebrate together but sometimes the expectations of others can really cause unnecessary stress. We constantly see the world through a lens of expectation, and that lens can distort what we see in a way that sets us up for disappointment or excitement. But that disappointment or excitement comes as a surprise when we experience reality, because reality rarely aligns with our expectations. If we want to destress the holiday season, we need to manage our expectations of others and others’ expectations of us.

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4 Types of Tension That Will Destroy Your Relationships

Every relationship has its ups and downs, be it with a spouse, a boss, an employee, or even a client. There are days when we just wake up on the wrong side of the bed and find ourselves bringing less to the table than we would’ve hoped. Yet this is normal, and any serious relationship that doesn’t have some form of tension is likely shallow and false. While some tension is healthy, there are certain kinds of negativity that are lethal to a relationship when they’re allowed to fester. They are the types of negativity that we experience in relationships every day, so they seem normal, but if we let them run their course and infect our relationships, they will suck the life right out of them. They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

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